I’m not outrageous. I’ve finally gotten to know simplicity, and she’s quite nice. But at times I can be loud. It’s nice to be heard once in awhile, you know? I feel grown up, but I know I’m still young, although not naive. I’ve had my share of provocativeness, but admit it…we’ve all been there and we’ve all loved that part at least a little, right? I also met sophistication. Along with the red lipstick that you finally learn to wear the right way, and only at a cetain time of day…or lets say, night. The love I found was serendipitous…along with round trips to Cloud 9 and hell. But it’s balanced, and we all need that to keep us in check. Me, now…a life filled with thick books you spend so much on but never actually REALLY read. Breakfast consisting of coffee and cigarettes. Failed attempts to run or go to the gym. Life is about learning. Each year it changes. Always a little wiser than the last, I hope. It’s nice to finally love your life and yourself….fully. For no one else, but you.
| — | Nike, 1999. (via msdiaz) |
A Woman Should Have by Maya Angelou
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,
even if she never wants to or needs to…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
something perfect to wear if the employer,
or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
a youth she’s content to leave behind….
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
a past juicy enough that she’s looking forward to
retelling it in her old age….
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …..
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
one friend who always makes her laugh… and one who lets her cry…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ….
a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,
and a recipe for a meal,
that will make her guests feel honored…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
a feeling of control over her destiny…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
how to fall in love without losing herself..
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
how to quit a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend without;
ruining the friendship…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
when to try harder… and WHEN TO WALK AWAY…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
that she can’t change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
that her childhood may not have been perfect…but its over…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
what she would and wouldn’t do for love or more…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
how to live alone… even if she doesn’t like it…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW..
whom she can trust,
whom she can’t,
and why she shouldn’t take it personally…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
where to go…
be it to her best friend’s kitchen table..
or a charming inn in the woods…
when her soul needs soothing…
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
what she can and can’t accomplish in a day…
a month…and a year…
there are going to be rough spots. Being in love means everything feels perfect, so when we have our down times…you suddenly start to question if things are enough. Well…don’t start with the questions! Stop with the thinking too hard and feeling sorry for yourself. No one and nothing is perfect. You start to think “you deserve better” for that single moment your significant other is being selfish. Truth is, sometimes we don’t realize how much the other person is doing for you cuz your so used to it, and start to become ungrateful. But give em a break. Sometimes they just need a little time for their self.
When times get tough, you start to think you can find better…but really, if this person you truly find yourself in love with can’t live up to your expectations, then who honestly can? And when your really not satisfied with his/her all, then maybe you don’t deserve to be with someone who’s giving you their best.
Love is about fighting and growing. Learning and living.
Love is not giving up, and looking for someone who you think is capable of doing better, cuz trust me…anywhere, the beginning is always the best part. But in real love, the beginning never ends.
Love is not breaking up, but arguing and still knowing that things are going to be alright in the end.
I’m guilty of being the selfish person and asking for so much, but you realize your mistakes and you learn from them…and that’s exactly what makes the relationship better.
In a zoo in California, a mother tiger gave birth to a rare set of triplet tiger cubs. Unfortunately, due to complications in the pregnancy, the cubs were born prematurely and due to their tiny size, they died shortly after birth.
The mother tiger after recovering from the delivery, suddenly started to decline in health, although physically she was fine. The veterinarians felt that the loss of her litter had caused the tigress to fall into a depression. The doctors decided that if the tigress could surrogate another mother’s cubs, perhaps she would improve.
After checking with many other zoos across the country, the depressing news was that there were no tiger cubs of the right age to introduce to the mourning mother. The veterinarians decided to try something that had never been tried in a zoo environment. Sometimes a mother of one species will take on the care of a different species. The only orphans” that could be found quickly, were a litter of weaner pigs. The zoo keepers and vets wrapped the piglets in tiger skin and placed the babies around the mother tiger.
(via boycott-love)
- The music video for Alicia Keys’ “Unthinkable” is amazing. Actually, this whole song is amazing. No, her whole album is amazing.
- Why do the good die young? Wtf is wrong w/ the world?
- I wonder how all the guys in hubbs’ compartment can sleep w/ his loud snoring!
- I love how hubbs managed to fall asleep on the phone just to keep me happy, even if he’s in a compartment full of marines, & shit faced drunk. Yup, he loves me.
- I’m hungry. I wanna make noodles right now.
- Why is on-line mahjong so addicting?
- Why do people lie?
- One day I’m gonna write a book about why people lie & why people do the things they do.
- I hate when only one nostril is stuffy.
- I want Mark to come home now!
- Back to the song “Unthinkable” … it gives me a sense of courage. Like I wanna go out and do the things I said I never would.
- I wish I could teleport.
- I haven’t drank in so long.
- I had the worst dream of my life last night.
- I really miss my brothers.
- It’s nice seeing people happy.
- I need a job.
- Is it really possible to love this much? Like this? It has to be real…
- It’s crazy how you can have so many thoughts at once.
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Here’s a recurring thought I often force myself to have.
A lot of experiences seem finite. We use counting adjectives to describe them (unless you are a supermarket): fewer, many, some. These are things like going to Disneyland — I’ve been once — or eating shark –- I’ve never done this –– or visiting the St. Louis Gateway Arch –- I’ve done this 4 times.
But mostly we think of experiences as infinite (or truncated infinite, maybe, if we’re paying attention). We use non-counting adjectives to describe them: some, lots, any, much. I eat lots of spaghetti. I go to some Broadway plays. I have so much money. I don’t have any bad habits.
And so I try to remind myself that all experiences are finite, countable. Which can be sad. Like there is a literally finite number of conversations I will have with my friend Jared. Maybe it’s 2,132. I don’t know, but there will be a last one. And a second-to-last one. And one that is half-way between the first and last. There is a finite number of times that I will (get to) eat tacos. A finite number of times that I will have sex with Kimberly. A finite number of times I will wear this black sweater I really like. A finite number of times I will pick Maxx up before she becomes un-pick-upable at some inevitably approaching point in time.
I guess this makes you think things are precious and makes you want to pay attention. Which it does. But mostly I just like thinking about it because it makes my mind feel weird. Which is also interesting.
What is their name?
- Mark Joseph Fernandez aka thastunninone :)
What pet name do you like to call them?
- Babe, Love, Daddy, Love-A-Dub-Dub, Chubbs, Hubbs, Hubby, Baby<3
How long have you been together?
- Officially 8 months, but we’ve known each other since middle school.
How did you meet?
- friend of friends, I guess you can say?
What do you like the most about them?
- Where do I start…haha. I’m very comfortable around him, no frontin necessary. I feel safe around him. We respect each other. He’s just very loving. I can honestly say there is no love like his<3 Plus, he takes very good care of me.
What do you like the least about them?
- His very short temper! Haha Probably one of the things he’s known for.
What is the best thing they have ever done for you?
- hands down, Valentine’s Weekend. Just me and him.
Have they met your parents yet?
- Yes, my mom met him waaay back in the day..and loved him eversince. He met my dad, and I love it cuz they have the longest conversations while drinking together, and he just really knows how to get parents on his side.
What would your kids look like if you had kids?
- If it’s a girl, I bet she would look like me. If it’s a boy, he would probably look like his daddy.
What is the worst argument you have had?
- Stupid ones. It’s funny when we fight though. I’ll cry and he’ll come up behind me 10 mintues later treating me like a baby saying sorry. Hahaha I love it!
Who asked who out?
- Haha, it’s a funny story! He’s ALWAYS been trying to get at me..but I would always deny him. Then one day, I told him I was ready to give “us” a shot. It;s been love eversince<3
Do you think you will get married?
- We’re engaged, and we we’re supposed to get married in April, but I thought about it, and realized I didn’t wanna get married without the presence of my family and friends..so we’re gonna wait til we can have a real wedding.
Can you see yourself growing old with them?
- Definitely. When he’s here, I’m always at his house…and even visiting his family when he’s not. I already see my set future with him.
What is the one thing you would like to change about them?
- Not a damn thing. Whatever flaws he has, I deal with it. That’s what love is.
What do you think they would like to change about you?
- My whining and crying! Hahahaha
What is the first gift they ever bought you?
- Hm..the first? Idk about the first, but he buys me stuff all the time :)
Do you have a favorite song together?
- Lots.
Which famous person do you think they look like the most?
- None.
Would you say the two of you are a good match?
- Yes, everyone says he’s good for me and I’m good for him. I would say so. He has a crazy temper, while I’m the calm one. He’s street smart, I’m book smart. LOL! I think we compliment each other perfectly<333
I MISS YOU LOVE-A-DUB-DUB! COME HOME SOON!!<3
